在愛中苦了自己──知覺伴侶人際行為在愛情完美主義與關係滿意度關連中的中介預測效果

Suffering Yourself in Love: Mediating Predictive Effect of Partners' Perceived Interpersonal Behavior on the Relationship between Romantic Perfectionism and Relationship Satisfaction

許多研究發現，愛情完美主義傾向（要求自我、要求伴侶）與關係滿意度具有負相關，然而這中間發生了什麼心理歷程？本研究目的，即欲探討「知覺伴侶人際行為」是否扮演了中介預測的角色？本研究採「社會行為結構分析模式」來測量愛情關係中「知覺伴侶人際行為」的內涵，包括：關懷呵護、攻擊漠視、自主肯定、干涉控制等個體對伴侶的人際行為知覺程度。研究對象為正處於愛情關係中的異性戀大專院校在學學生，共收集440份有效問卷。以問卷調查法進行研究，施測工具為：中文版愛情完美主義量表、知覺伴侶人際行為量表、以及關係滿意度量表。研究結果與結論：1.在愛情完美主義對愛情關係的影響中，知覺伴侶人際行為具中介預測效果；2.在愛情心理學中，探討伴侶間的人際行為知覺具重要性，愛情完美主義傾向可能促使個體產生不同的人際行為知覺；3.要求伴侶與要求自我完美主義傾向，可能具有不同的人際行為知覺，兩者都能促使個體較不容易知覺伴侶的自主肯定與關愛呵護，進而預測較低的關係滿意度，而要求伴侶完美主義也會透過攻擊漠視的人際行為知覺，進而預測較低的關係滿意度。4.相較於要求自我完美主義，要求伴侶對愛情關係的影響可能更具重要性。最後討論研究限制以及在情感教育、伴侶諮商上的應用。

Numerous studies have observed that self-oriented and other-oriented romantic perfectionism are negatively correlated with relationship satisfaction. Self-oriented perfectionism and other-oriented romantic perfectionism refer to the tendencies (in a romantic relationship) to set excessively high standards for oneself and one’s partner, respectively. The psychological process underlying these two types of perfectionism and the effect of those processes on the individual warrant consideration . Romantic perfectionism tends to provide individuals with a unique internal working model (IWM) and cognitive process that may affect their perception of external situational information. Consideration of whether romantic perfectionism affects a couple’s perceptions of interpersonal behavior, thereby predicting relationship satisfaction, is also necessary. On the basis of past research, perfectionism can be divided into two types, namely a general perfectionist trait and a domain-specific perfectionism. Discussions on the general trait of perfectionism have emphasized that perfectionism is a universal personal trait that exists across contexts. Domain-specific perfectionism refers to a perfectionism that is focused on a particular domain, such as romantic relationships. Domain-specific perfectionism is a demonstration of personal traits in relational interaction and context. In summary, when measuring perfectionism, the distinct relationship and situation must be considered, presenting various connotations for the measurement. In the domain of a romantic relationship, the term“dyadic perfectionism”or“romantic perfectionism”is discussed. Each partner’s perceived interpersonal behavior may exert a c rucial role in determining the effect of romantic perfectionism on relationship quality. The IWM of perfectionism acquired from the parent–child attachment relationship during childhood provides the individual with a unique cognitive process with which to perceive the couple’s interpersonal behavior. This study uses the Structural Analysis of Social Behavior (SASB) model to assess perceptions of partners' interpersonal behavior in romantic relationships, including affirmations of autonomy, care for the affiliation, ignorance of personal attacks, and assuming control. The SASB model holds that interpersonal behavior can be divided into two dimensions: affiliation and interdependence. Affiliation refers to the two opposing behaviors of love and hate and emphasizes the need for individuals to maintain proximity in the dynamics of interpersonal behavior. Interdependence refers to the two opposing behaviors of control and autonomy, emphasizing the individual's desire for autonomy and self-worth.