癌末病患的依附關係探討

The Research of Cancer Patients’ Attachment with Their Intimate Families

本研究從癌症病患的深度訪談，了解癌症病患在治療過程中，如何看待自己與年長父母以及自己與年幼子女的依附關係。癌末病患如何透過親密感和依附關係修復或強化，獲得自我生命價值的正向肯定和意義。研究者深度訪談九位受訪者，結論如下：癌症病患重現對年長父母的依附關係，為癌症病患向父母討好、依賴、撒嬌的退化作用特徵，透過身體碰觸，表達依附關係的渴望。癌末病患一方面渴望對子女表達關心、和子女保持親密的依附感，也希望在生命終了前，盡自己為人父母教養職責。癌末病患與年長父母和子女仍有依附關係的需求，不僅需要與親密家人重建與修復依附關係，也需要愛與被愛。協助癌末病患重新面對自己與親密家人的依附關係，建立個人尊嚴和尊重生命的態度、肯定自己存在的生命價值，成就對生命的終極信念乃生命教育終極關懷可以多加關注處。

The aim of this research is to explore the cancer patient’s attachment relationships with their children and their parents. This study also discusses cancer patients’ anxiety and insecurity deriving from incapable of looking after their young children and old parents. Nine patients with terminal cancer were interviewed. The important conclusions were as followings: The cancer patient wanted to grab attentions from their parents, they desired physical contacts and relied on their parents. The cancer patients provided anything they could for children and they wanted to make their children “grown-up” and independent. The cancer patients also presented the “perceptual” part – the intimate relationships with children. It presented their intentions to fulfill their duties as children and parents. It is important to explore the attachment of cancer patients with their parents and children. Their intimate needs included not only the self-awareness but also the practice of “love” and “be-loved.” Assisting cancer patients to reflect their life experiences and to discern their relationships with intimate families would raise up their individual dignity and attitudes of keeping positive life value, and fulfill their ultimate belief to life.