父母眼中的離合處境與現代倫理意涵

Parent’s Hermeneutics of Separation with Child︰ An Implication on Modern Ethics

本研究訪問十位父母敘說其與子女之間的情事，其子女的年齡依序由兒童期、青少年期乃至離家讀書工作的青年期，以便能夠在敘說資料中確立敘說的歷史距離，使父母現在的置身位置出現（something at issue）。其次，我們將受訪父母的敘說資料做三重構作的說明：（1）存有關係（生養經驗的本體）；（2）協商構作（親子的生活情事），與（3）超驗結構（親子之間的「社會」）來探討父母對自己與子女關係的意涵，以便從經驗史性來瞭解父母對親子關係的發展階段到詮釋的理解：從共生到分離，從交互到區分，其實都是存有關係與協商構作的雙重運作，一旦提到超驗的社會結構來考量，父母很明白子女的外離運動，留在原處的父母只能被動的等著回報，但是父母作為已經付出者的位置，回報的時間權已經轉到子女身上，換言之，子女成為如何反身的倫理主導者，回報的時機與心意已經不在父母手上，而形成倫理的不對稱與不可逆反。對父母來說，倫理變成一個困難處境，「孝」或「不孝」，父母成為坐等的人。

We propose a triple levels model to account for the relations between parent and child from parent’s viewpoint: (1)an ontological relation called bring-up experience, which is grounded on the existential level of parent-child relationship; (2)a dealing-with relation , based on everyday interaction, and (3)the social, which Is the force parents perceived as an external reality. We assume that the dealing-with level tends to overshadow the ontological experience of bring-up, thus we decode the narrative data on separation Issues by Heidegger’s hermeneutic methodology, try to reveal that the parent-child relationship is asymmetry and the parents are destined to be passive to face the separation. We also analyze the power management of the social which keep child away from parents not enabling to resist. The implication of filial pity is also discussed.