親子間印象深刻之獎勵與懲罰的情感意涵

Emotional Contents of Imprinted Images on Parental Reward and Punishment

本研究以刻意選擇的敘事者為對象，以敘事者回憶敘寫的親子間印象最深刻的獎勵與懲罰的故事為素材，以質性研究的敘事研究法進行分析解讀。藉由故事中的情感性敘述，發現印象深刻的情感意涵，以形成親情中的情感面貌。研究結果發現，華人父母管教很直接，多為懲罰與責罵，但情感表達很含蓄，不慣常直接向子女表達情感。因此，從子女為視框解讀，以親子獎勵與懲罰為例，而發現的印象深刻之情感意涵有：一、是一種關愛與肯定：滿意的微笑，無盡的回味；眼神裡的安慰與驕傲，深植腦海；二、是一種信任與安心：間接誇讚，深刻的烙印；無意間的發生，帶來最真實的相信；三、是一種瞭解與重視：賞中涵罰、罰中寓賞，深刻咀嚼；賞罰生效，深刻記之；四、是一種潛藏的濃濃愛意：實質背後內涵的情意，永遠難忘；行為背後的貼心情意，深情的記憶；五、是一種深深的期望：失望的眼淚，深深的懊悔；不言不語的失望，是綿延的難受；生命的唯一，故事的印記；六、是一種教誨與愛護：沒有罰的罰，卻久久長長；良心懲罰，在心靈裡生根；自食惡果，不敢再犯。這些情感意涵，是孩子體會父母行為背後的情感與愛意，並成為親情中印象深刻的記憶。

We will not always remember everything happened in our whole life, yet, after so many years, there were still some imprinted images left from deep emotions behind the events. This qualitative research, based on the selected narrators’ most imprinted images on parental reward and punishment, is to analyze the narrative data and to discover the emotional contents of imprinted images. From the result, we found Chinese parents discipline their children directly with punishment and scolding, with little emotional expression. We also found the emotional contents, based on the selected narrators’ most imprinted images on parental reward and punishment, include: （1）care and recognition, （2） trust and security, （3）understanding and regard,（4） unspoken deep love,（5）high expectation,（6）admonition and guidance.These emotional contents, from which children understand the hidden emotions and love behind the behavior of their parents, contribute to the impressive memory in parent-child relationship.