傳統經學的「嫁娶觀」與現代「結婚觀」及其相關問題探論

View of Traditional Chinese Marriage in Canonical Scholarship and Modern Chinese Marriage in Contemporary Society, Exploration and Discussion

本文居於經學的傳統立場，探討比較傳統婚姻與臺灣現代式婚姻的本質、過程與形成等涉及的相關問題。透過實際觀察與經書閱讀，借助歸納分析的方法，因而了解傳統婚姻傳宗接代與服侍夫家父母為重心， 現代婚姻則以相互扶持共創未來為目標；傳統婚姻帶來戀愛的可能，現代婚姻基本上是戀愛的結果；無論戀愛或結婚，都需要不間斷的持續思考與經營，本文因此提供 21 個戀愛思考的問題，21 項經營維持美滿婚姻的規約。所得研究成果提供部分具有參考價值的答案，當有助於對傳統與現代情感與婚姻關係的理解，對涉及男女情感、婚姻關係等問題的研究者，或許會有某些實質的學術助益功能。

This paper compares traditional and modern marriages from the perspective of the confucian tradition. The research methods include field observation, classical literature survey, and inductive analysis. This study finds that the traditional chinese marriages had a focus on having a son to carry the husband’s name and serving the parents of the husband, whereas the modern chinese marriage is a milestone of a relationship. As a matter of fact, a relationship, whether between lovers or spouses, requires continuous self-reflections and collaboration of both partners. Based on this obseration, this study presents 21 questions for those who are in a relationship, and 21 principles for those who seek a satisfying marriage. The author hopes that the findings of this study could increase understanding of and provide scholarly contribution to the nature of traditional and modern relationship and marriage.